chapters 4-8 Flow
There is ample evidence that suggests that, how parents interact with a child will have a lasting effect on the kind of person the child grows up to be. The family context, promoting the optimal experience could be described as having 5 characteristics.
1.Clarity. The teenagers feel that they know what their parents expect from them – goals and feedback in the family interaction are unambiguous.
2.Centering. The childrens’ perception that their parents are interested in what they are doing in the present, in their concrete feelings and experiences, rather than being preoccupied with whether they will be getting into a good college or obtaining a well-paying job.
3.Choice. Children feel that, they have a variety of possibilities from which to choose, including that of breaking parental rules – as long as they are prepared to face the consequences.
4.Commitment. The trust that allows the child to feel comfortable enough to set aside the shield of his defences, and become unselfconsciously involved in what ever he is interested in.
5.Challenge. The parents dedication to provide increasing complex opportunities for action to their children. (page 88)
( studies by Chicago psychologist Kevin Rathunde)
Do some net search on Richard Logan.
CHAPTER 5 : THE BODY IN FLOW
“ A man possesses nothing save a brief loan of his own body. Yet, the doby od man is capable of much curious pleasure. “ J.B.Cabell.
The almost unlimited potential for enjoyment that the body offers often remains unexploited. Few learn to move with the greace of an acrobat, see with the fresh eye of an artist, feel the joy of an athlete who breaks his own record, taste with the subllety of a connoisseur, or love with a skill that lifts sexs into a form of art ! ( page 94)
The easiest step towards improving the quality of life consists in simply learning to conrol the body and its senses.
Every thing the body can do is potentially enjoyable. Yet, many people ignore this capacity, and sue their physical equipment as little as possible and leaving its ability to provide flow unexploited.
To break the bonds of gravity is one of the oldest dreams of mankind. (96)
Every person, no matter how unfit he or she is, can rise a little higher, go a little faster, and grow to be a little stronger. The joy of surpassing the limits of body is open to all ! ( 97)
The urge to have sex is so powerful that, it can drain psychic enery away from other necessary goals. Therefore, every culture has to invest great efforts in rechanneling and resraining it, and many complex social institutions exist only in order to regulate this urge. The saying that, “ Love makes the world go round” is a polite referne to the fact that, most of our deeds are impelled, either directly or indirectly, by sexual needs. (101)
CHAPTER 6 : FLOW OF THOUGHT
To remember a long list of elders, going back a dozen generations, is particularly enjoyable in that, it satisfies the need to find a place in the ongoing stream of life. To recall one’s ancestors places the recaller as a link in a chain that starts in the mythical past and extends into the unfathomable future.
Net search : Johann Huizinga, the great Dutch cultural historian.
People lost the ability for a good conversation , which is a pity. Because, it could be argued that , the main function of conversation is not go get things accomplished, but to improve the quality of experience !
Do some net search on : Peter Berger and Thomas Luckmann, the influential phenomenological sociologists.
The major creative use of language, already mentioned several times in earlier contexts, is poetry. (130)
# Do some net search on : Kenneth Koch, the New York poet and social reformer.
Observing the events of life and preserving both the larger and smaller events of life is one of the oldest and most satisfying ways to bring order to consciousness. ( 132)
There are several levels at which, ‘ history as a flow’ can be practiced. The most personal involves simply keeping a journal. (133)
In the 20 th century, Science has become a highly institutionalised activity. (134)
The basic framework that makes science enjoyable, is available to everyone. It involves curiosity, careful observation, a disciplined way of recording events, and finding ways to tease out the underlying regularities in what one learns. It also requires the humility to be willing to learn from the results of past investigators, couples with enough scepticism and openness of mind to reject beliefs that are not supported by facts. (137)
CHAPTER 7 : WORK AS A FLOW
# Do some net search on : Professor Fausto Massimini and Dr.Antonella Delle Fave , the Italian psychologists who did research on Work aspect of life.
To read books like ‘ How to win friends and influence people’ and yearning to be accepted by the ‘in’ crowd – reflects an extrinsically motivated desire to manipulate others. But people are not important ONLY because they can help make our goals come true ; when they are treated as valuable in their own right, people are the most fulfilling source of happiness ! ( 167) <>
The way to grow, while enjoying life is to create a higher form of order out of entropy that is inevitable condition of living. This means, taking each new challenge, not as something to be repressed or avoided, but as an opportunity for learning and for improving skills. When physical vigor fails with age, for example, it means that, one will be ready to turn one’s energies from the mastery of the external world to a deeper exploration of inner reality. It means that, one can finally read Proust, take up chess, grow Orchids, help one’s neighbors, and think about God – if these are the things one has decided , are worth pursuing. But it is difficult to accomplish any of them , unless one has earlier acquired the habit of using solitude to good advantage. ( 172)
No social change can come about, until the consciouness of the individuals is changed first. When a young man asked Carlyle how he should go about reforming the world, Carlyle answered, ‘ Reform yourself. That way, there will be one less rascal in thew world”” The advice is still valid. Those who try to make life better for everyone without having learned to control their own lives first, usually end up making things WORSE all around !
1.Clarity. The teenagers feel that they know what their parents expect from them – goals and feedback in the family interaction are unambiguous.
2.Centering. The childrens’ perception that their parents are interested in what they are doing in the present, in their concrete feelings and experiences, rather than being preoccupied with whether they will be getting into a good college or obtaining a well-paying job.
3.Choice. Children feel that, they have a variety of possibilities from which to choose, including that of breaking parental rules – as long as they are prepared to face the consequences.
4.Commitment. The trust that allows the child to feel comfortable enough to set aside the shield of his defences, and become unselfconsciously involved in what ever he is interested in.
5.Challenge. The parents dedication to provide increasing complex opportunities for action to their children. (page 88)
( studies by Chicago psychologist Kevin Rathunde)
Do some net search on Richard Logan.
CHAPTER 5 : THE BODY IN FLOW
“ A man possesses nothing save a brief loan of his own body. Yet, the doby od man is capable of much curious pleasure. “ J.B.Cabell.
The almost unlimited potential for enjoyment that the body offers often remains unexploited. Few learn to move with the greace of an acrobat, see with the fresh eye of an artist, feel the joy of an athlete who breaks his own record, taste with the subllety of a connoisseur, or love with a skill that lifts sexs into a form of art ! ( page 94)
The easiest step towards improving the quality of life consists in simply learning to conrol the body and its senses.
Every thing the body can do is potentially enjoyable. Yet, many people ignore this capacity, and sue their physical equipment as little as possible and leaving its ability to provide flow unexploited.
To break the bonds of gravity is one of the oldest dreams of mankind. (96)
Every person, no matter how unfit he or she is, can rise a little higher, go a little faster, and grow to be a little stronger. The joy of surpassing the limits of body is open to all ! ( 97)
The urge to have sex is so powerful that, it can drain psychic enery away from other necessary goals. Therefore, every culture has to invest great efforts in rechanneling and resraining it, and many complex social institutions exist only in order to regulate this urge. The saying that, “ Love makes the world go round” is a polite referne to the fact that, most of our deeds are impelled, either directly or indirectly, by sexual needs. (101)
CHAPTER 6 : FLOW OF THOUGHT
To remember a long list of elders, going back a dozen generations, is particularly enjoyable in that, it satisfies the need to find a place in the ongoing stream of life. To recall one’s ancestors places the recaller as a link in a chain that starts in the mythical past and extends into the unfathomable future.
Net search : Johann Huizinga, the great Dutch cultural historian.
People lost the ability for a good conversation , which is a pity. Because, it could be argued that , the main function of conversation is not go get things accomplished, but to improve the quality of experience !
Do some net search on : Peter Berger and Thomas Luckmann, the influential phenomenological sociologists.
The major creative use of language, already mentioned several times in earlier contexts, is poetry. (130)
# Do some net search on : Kenneth Koch, the New York poet and social reformer.
Observing the events of life and preserving both the larger and smaller events of life is one of the oldest and most satisfying ways to bring order to consciousness. ( 132)
There are several levels at which, ‘ history as a flow’ can be practiced. The most personal involves simply keeping a journal. (133)
In the 20 th century, Science has become a highly institutionalised activity. (134)
The basic framework that makes science enjoyable, is available to everyone. It involves curiosity, careful observation, a disciplined way of recording events, and finding ways to tease out the underlying regularities in what one learns. It also requires the humility to be willing to learn from the results of past investigators, couples with enough scepticism and openness of mind to reject beliefs that are not supported by facts. (137)
CHAPTER 7 : WORK AS A FLOW
# Do some net search on : Professor Fausto Massimini and Dr.Antonella Delle Fave , the Italian psychologists who did research on Work aspect of life.
To read books like ‘ How to win friends and influence people’ and yearning to be accepted by the ‘in’ crowd – reflects an extrinsically motivated desire to manipulate others. But people are not important ONLY because they can help make our goals come true ; when they are treated as valuable in their own right, people are the most fulfilling source of happiness ! ( 167) <>
The way to grow, while enjoying life is to create a higher form of order out of entropy that is inevitable condition of living. This means, taking each new challenge, not as something to be repressed or avoided, but as an opportunity for learning and for improving skills. When physical vigor fails with age, for example, it means that, one will be ready to turn one’s energies from the mastery of the external world to a deeper exploration of inner reality. It means that, one can finally read Proust, take up chess, grow Orchids, help one’s neighbors, and think about God – if these are the things one has decided , are worth pursuing. But it is difficult to accomplish any of them , unless one has earlier acquired the habit of using solitude to good advantage. ( 172)
No social change can come about, until the consciouness of the individuals is changed first. When a young man asked Carlyle how he should go about reforming the world, Carlyle answered, ‘ Reform yourself. That way, there will be one less rascal in thew world”” The advice is still valid. Those who try to make life better for everyone without having learned to control their own lives first, usually end up making things WORSE all around !
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